I dont mean to be a grump but, having heard so much about how solo travellers are always inundated with happy hour drinks offers on the road, Im getting a bit worried about how I can keep myself to myself occasionally without causing offence. I am actually a sociable chap but I also enjoy quite my own company.Do you think this is going to be a problem or am I over-estimating my own future popularity?
dave06 said
02:32 PM Aug 29, 2008
I am not a solo so I hope I dont offend, if you wish to be alone then so be it, if you wish to join in then so be it, nobody forces you to do anything, the decision is yours, we dont push ourselves on to anyone we invite people to be in the game of life with us, if you are a grumpy unsociable old sod, then thats who you are, we dont care because a lot of the time we too are grumpy old sods, we also like our alone time, we invite not intimidate, all you say is no thank you and we go away, but remember an extended hand smacked away will probably not be returned, we will be there to help but wont be there to annoy, I helped get this singles forum off the ground, and I am extremely proud and very protective of it, it is for singles who want to join in life, if you dont want to join in then why are you even posting in the forum, it is obvious that deep down you are the same as the rest of us, craving the company of others, as a sort of parent I keep a watch over this forum, I have seen too many singles out there who do not join in simply because of shyness or some other feeble excuse I find this upsetting and intolerable, they are the ones whom I aimed this forum at, my heart went out and is still out to them, choose what you may but please think about it, the people that you are rejecting are all in the same boat with (probably) the same life experiences, I have seen it time and time again a problem shared is a problem halved whatever it is, have your quiet time but also please mix it with some people time, if you wish to mix then mix, if you honestly dont want to mix, then find a forum for grumps and leave this to the solos who choose life, stop griping about having to mix, because you dont, I'll get off my soapbox now and leave you alone
Basil Faulty said
05:17 PM Aug 29, 2008
Hey Mark, I'm like you (unfortunatley not single though), I like my own company and I also enjoy chatting with others. There are no rules as Hyacinth Bucket would have them. If I'm in the mood for drinky poos then I graciously accept offers to social functions (this includes morning teas and meals etc put on generously by some CP's). Sometimes I even invite people "over" for a cuppacino, mostly I don't.... Just be your own man, go with the flow, enjoy life, don't take it to seriously - no one gets out alive anyway.
Silver Fox said
08:57 AM Aug 30, 2008
I'm sure you're not a grump, Mark. However, your post does remind me of a feller I met in the Kimberley a couple of years ago. He had a nice off-road van with a detachable pole at one end. Every afternoon he used to run up a flag with a picture of a beer on it. When he did that, it basically meant anyone who wated to was welcome to pull up a campchair for a drink. Maybe you could do something similar -- perhaps run up a flag with a smily face on when you're in the mood for company and an unhappy face when you're not! Just a thought. Actually, I'm sure you'll be pleasantly surprised by how respectful and thoughtful your fellow travellers will be. Most people are happy to chat to their camping neighbours but there's no pressure. Just relax and enjoy each day as it comes.
NannyMon said
01:22 PM Aug 30, 2008
Hi Mark and Silver Fox,
Like you Mark, I am a loner, what a great idea the flag is, didn't people come over to ask him what it meant lol. I have to tell you both this, you too Dave and Basil and anyone else who is interested. I have only had my van for 3 weeks and the first week I decided to take it for a run up the coast just a couple of hundred ks or so to see how things went. I called into a caravan park for the night (too scared to stay out on the open road somewhere). I have a little dog and I had looked up the park and it said it was dog friendly so I wasn't all that worried, when I went in to ask about a powered site, they said, $25 for the site, $20 for the amenties key, refundable on return of key, duh, and wait for it $50 bond on my dog. Never heard of that as I have travelled in my car with him. So I said what do you mean and they said if your dog barks or annoys neighbours we keep the $50 ... right. Well all night I was uneasy as Max barks when anyone comes close to my house, car or now the van. This is great as I am deaf and it lets me know that someone is around. Anyway, as I said all night I was uneasy thinking of that $50, Max was uneasy as he was in a strange place, not yet used to the van as I had only just got it. We got thru the night and in the morning I was checking the oil and water and Max started to bark, I looked up and here was this elderly man just watching me. I said hello and we started talking, he was a permenant resident. I said I had to get going as I was worried Max, he still kept talking, I though oh well he is lonely, eventually he left and I shot over to have my shower and I had just come back and was about to shut the sliding door and get moving and Max started barking again. This time it was a little old lady and she came over and we started talking, again, I haven't learnt how to say no yet. She poked her head it the van and was looking at this and that and she then plonked herself on my lounge and then it started, a born again Christian, now don't get me wrong, I have nothing against religion but I couldn't shut her up (I didnt know how to without offending her), well she prayed over me, she sung over me and she gave me psalms to read and this went on for over 2 hours and I still could not think of how to get her out of the van. Eventually she sung and prayed herself out and I told her I had to get going and I shut the sliding door and almost fell over myself getting into the drivers seat. Now please can you all tell me how I should have handled that situation. I believe in been polite to all people especially older people. I have my own religion and I don't like offending people but this was just too much. Oh and yes I did get back my $50 for Max.
dave06 said
02:36 PM Aug 30, 2008
ROTFL, ROTFL, ha, ha, ha, someone please stop me, you have just found my main reason for staying away from caravan parks, all the bloody weirdos they attract and the way that park owners try to rip us off, you got prayed over, stop stop it you're killing me, 2 hours HA, HA, HA get out of here, why didnt you just say to her "go away you stupid women" as for the old feller, well they are everywhere in parks, tell him to nick off, offend anyone, HAH,. the people who frequent parks have the thickest skin and heads that I have ever come across, grab a copy of camps australia 4 and free camp. start enjoying the experience, tell the dickheads to piss off, stand up for yourself, burn your bra, roar like a tiger stand up for your rights, god its your life, live it, if someone intrudes on your "private space" tell them so dont sit back and take the weirdos crap, tell them so, find the good people keep away from the drongoes, fly the flag, hell nail your undies to the mast and start enjoying life, dont hide
NannyMon said
02:59 PM Aug 30, 2008
dave06 wrote:
ROTFL, ROTFL, ha, ha, ha, someone please stop me, you have just found my main reason for staying away from caravan parks, all the bloody weirdos they attract and the way that park owners try to rip us off, you got prayed over, stop stop it you're killing me, 2 hours HA, HA, HA get out of here, why didnt you just say to her "go away you stupid women" as for the old feller, well they are everywhere in parks, tell him to nick off, offend anyone, HAH,. the people who frequent parks have the thickest skin and heads that I have ever come across, grab a copy of camps australia 4 and free camp. start enjoying the experience, tell the dickheads to piss off, stand up for yourself, burn your bra, roar like a tiger stand up for your rights, god its your life, live it, if someone intrudes on your "private space" tell them so dont sit back and take the weirdos crap, tell them so, find the good people keep away from the drongoes, fly the flag, hell nail your undies to the mast and start enjoying life, dont hide
thank you Dave I needed that, you reckon I should have pushed her out of the van and roared off.
dave06 said
04:43 PM Aug 30, 2008
HAH, HAH, still rotfl, mate I would have given her such a boot that her backside would still be skidding, just because it is good manners you dont have to be always nice, some people dont deserve it, as for the stare bear, go over stand beside him and stare back at your camp and say what is so riveting that it takes you away from your own life, and just tell him to nick off, pushed her out of the van, hell she wouldnt have got there in the first place, put your "dont give a rats" t-shirt on and stare the bloody world in the eye, your life, take it by the throat and wring the daylights out of it live everyday as if it is your last as it may well be, drongoes take up too much time dont give them any of yours, give it to the nice ones
NannyMon said
06:01 PM Sep 1, 2008
dave06 wrote:
HAH, HAH, still rotfl, mate I would have given her such a boot that her backside would still be skidding, just because it is good manners you dont have to be always nice, some people dont deserve it, as for the stare bear, go over stand beside him and stare back at your camp and say what is so riveting that it takes you away from your own life, and just tell him to nick off, pushed her out of the van, hell she wouldnt have got there in the first place, put your "dont give a rats" t-shirt on and stare the bloody world in the eye, your life, take it by the throat and wring the daylights out of it live everyday as if it is your last as it may well be, drongoes take up too much time dont give them any of yours, give it to the nice ones
Lol Dave you do make me laugh and I will certainly take your advise and take life by it's throat and I will do my best to wring the living daylights out of it and I will think of you while I do it. Thanks heaps for that. I really needed that nudge.
dave06 said
09:02 PM Sep 1, 2008
Hmmmm! think of me as you wring the daylights out of it, not sure about that one, do you reckon she's saying something basil
Basil Faulty said
01:25 PM Sep 2, 2008
NannyMon wrote:
Hi Mark and Silver Fox,
Like you Mark, I am a loner, what a great idea the flag is, didn't people come over to ask him what it meant lol. I have to tell you both this, you too Dave and Basil and anyone else who is interested. I have only had my van for 3 weeks and the first week I decided to take it for a run up the coast just a couple of hundred ks or so to see how things went. I called into a caravan park for the night (too scared to stay out on the open road somewhere). I have a little dog and I had looked up the park and it said it was dog friendly so I wasn't all that worried, when I went in to ask about a powered site, they said, $25 for the site, $20 for the amenties key, refundable on return of key, duh, and wait for it $50 bond on my dog. Never heard of that as I have travelled in my car with him. So I said what do you mean and they said if your dog barks or annoys neighbours we keep the $50 ... right. Well all night I was uneasy as Max barks when anyone comes close to my house, car or now the van. This is great as I am deaf and it lets me know that someone is around. Anyway, as I said all night I was uneasy thinking of that $50, Max was uneasy as he was in a strange place, not yet used to the van as I had only just got it. We got thru the night and in the morning I was checking the oil and water and Max started to bark, I looked up and here was this elderly man just watching me. I said hello and we started talking, he was a permenant resident. I said I had to get going as I was worried Max, he still kept talking, I though oh well he is lonely, eventually he left and I shot over to have my shower and I had just come back and was about to shut the sliding door and get moving and Max started barking again. This time it was a little old lady and she came over and we started talking, again, I haven't learnt how to say no yet. She poked her head it the van and was looking at this and that and she then plonked herself on my lounge and then it started, a born again Christian, now don't get me wrong, I have nothing against religion but I couldn't shut her up (I didnt know how to without offending her), well she prayed over me, she sung over me and she gave me psalms to read and this went on for over 2 hours and I still could not think of how to get her out of the van. Eventually she sung and prayed herself out and I told her I had to get going and I shut the sliding door and almost fell over myself getting into the drivers seat. Now please can you all tell me how I should have handled that situation. I believe in been polite to all people especially older people. I have my own religion and I don't like offending people but this was just too much. Oh and yes I did get back my $50 for Max.
I have only one word for you Monica.... Hallelujah.... Now please disclose where they hit you for the $50 dog bond?
Basil Faulty said
01:30 PM Sep 2, 2008
dave06 wrote:
ROTFL, ROTFL, ha, ha, ha, someone please stop me, you have just found my main reason for staying away from caravan parks, all the bloody weirdos they attract and the way that park owners try to rip us off, you got prayed over, stop stop it you're killing me, 2 hours HA, HA, HA get out of here, why didnt you just say to her "go away you stupid women" as for the old feller, well they are everywhere in parks, tell him to nick off, offend anyone, HAH,. the people who frequent parks have the thickest skin and heads that I have ever come across, grab a copy of camps australia 4 and free camp. start enjoying the experience, tell the dickheads to piss off, stand up for yourself, burn your bra, roar like a tiger stand up for your rights, god its your life, live it, if someone intrudes on your "private space" tell them so dont sit back and take the weirdos crap, tell them so, find the good people keep away from the drongoes, fly the flag, hell nail your undies to the mast and start enjoying life, dont hide
Fair suck of the save Dave, burning ones bra went out with the 70's and I have it on very good authority that Monica wears G strings and they do not look so good nailed to a mast..... Oh Jesus I'm going to have to get back in the quiet corner, this is all just too much for me....
dave06 said
05:44 PM Sep 2, 2008
I once seen a lady over near Mannum who used to place her panties on a small mast on the front of her van when she wanted "company" strange thing was they always went inside when she had freinds over, I would say that was unsociable of them, didnt see her much, the dragon didnt like me talking to her, I dont know why, we are normally very sociable people, strange that
NannyMon said
08:38 PM Sep 3, 2008
dave06 wrote:
I once seen a lady over near Mannum who used to place her panties on a small mast on the front of her van when she wanted "company" strange thing was they always went inside when she had freinds over, I would say that was unsociable of them, didnt see her much, the dragon didnt like me talking to her, I dont know why, we are normally very sociable people, strange that
Lol Dave, it took me till this morning to work out what all the above meant, talk about s l o w.
NannyMon said
08:44 PM Sep 3, 2008
Well ladies, looks like we girls will have to be careful where we hang our undies to dry after we do our washing.
-- Edited by NannyMon at 21:44, 2008-09-03
rosey said
04:48 PM Sep 5, 2008
OOOH Mon, you are just too nice!! Most people can be declined nicely with a gentle "No Thank You' or a plea for a raincheck, but when your space is invaded its time for the inner Tigeress to come out. Be rude if thats what it takes! And dont let that experience out you off, there heaps of great people out there....quite a lot of them even in Caravan Parks!
Dave, what does ROTFL mean?
dave06 said
04:57 PM Sep 5, 2008
ah HAH!!! another that is not up with the short cuts of the unspeakables, it is my great honor to enlighten you as to the one (of very few) texting shortcuts that I know or use, rotfl means quite simply, rolling on the floor laughing, and thank you for backing nannymon up and offering advice to her, it was her first experience out and it should have been far happier, she is obviously a very nice person and deserves better, great to see you backing each other up, pity you cant sit down around a fire all together with a glass or three and just have a yak and a laugh, far easier than the forum, I know you buggers would talk up a storm
Basil Faulty said
06:19 PM Sep 5, 2008
Basil notes his remarks re Mon wearing Gstrings has either been confirmed or denied by her absecnce of a response.....Not sure whuch....
NannyMon said
10:18 PM Sep 5, 2008
Basil Faulty wrote:
Basil notes his remarks re Mon wearing Gstrings has either been confirmed or denied by her absecnce of a response.....Not sure whuch....
Lol Bas, I did read it but was in a rush and decided to answer later, but ... dont you dare laugh .... I couldnt find it again.
Basil Faulty said
08:52 AM Sep 6, 2008
dave06 wrote:
I once seen a lady over near Mannum who used to place her panties on a small mast on the front of her van when she wanted "company" strange thing was they always went inside when she had freinds over, I would say that was unsociable of them, didnt see her much, the dragon didnt like me talking to her, I dont know why, we are normally very sociable people, strange that
Dave yeah that is strange, I wonder why women can work things like that out.... Hard for us blokes to suss...I had a similar experience at Cape Hillsborough just north of Mackay... A lady gave massages, just to cover costs you understand with the hot rocks... she used to hang a sign up in the window of her van when she was errrrrrrrr :Free:.... nepo won it read.... took me ages to cotton on...
nancyhector said
01:57 PM Sep 6, 2008
This is one of the problems with solo women trying to just live the hell out of their lives WITHOUT it being assumed they are 'working' women. I know you two guys are just being funny, but perhaps we solo women might wonder what you are doing in the solo's forum.
Helpful is great, but personal (assuming Monica wears a g-string) is just creepy.
NannyMon said
04:44 PM Sep 6, 2008
nancyhector wrote:
This is one of the problems with solo women trying to just live the hell out of their lives WITHOUT it being assumed they are 'working' women. I know you two guys are just being funny, but perhaps we solo women might wonder what you are doing in the solo's forum. Helpful is great, but personal (assuming Monica wears a g-string) is just creepy.
No Nancy I don't wear I g-string and I never have ... it was just pure fun on Basil's part .... why is everyone so touchy.
dave06 said
05:29 PM Sep 6, 2008
Lesley you are of course extremely correct, I apoligise profusely for constantly sticking my nose in and it will not happen again, I meant no harm with my posting as I am sure Basil meant none also, it was meaningless banter, I am on the top of the list of "protect women at all cost brigade" as you would see if you were to read my postings, anyway keep posting as communication is what it is all about
Ole Grizzly said
06:55 PM Sep 6, 2008
NannyMon wrote:
nancyhector wrote:
This is one of the problems with solo women trying to just live the hell out of their lives WITHOUT it being assumed they are 'working' women. I know you two guys are just being funny, but perhaps we solo women might wonder what you are doing in the solo's forum. Helpful is great, but personal (assuming Monica wears a g-string) is just creepy.
No Nancy I don't wear I g-string and I never have ... it was just pure fun on Basil's part .... why is everyone so touchy.
Struth...I wore a G string once..then found out it's not wise to put your jocks on back to front in the dark.
NannyMon said
10:05 PM Sep 6, 2008
dave06 wrote:
I once seen a lady over near Mannum who used to place her panties on a small mast on the front of her van when she wanted "company" strange thing was they always went inside when she had freinds over, I would say that was unsociable of them, didnt see her much, the dragon didnt like me talking to her, I dont know why, we are normally very sociable people, strange that
Probably only playing scrabble Dave, hard to concentrate if visitors pop in and out.
NannyMon said
09:04 PM Sep 7, 2008
Basil Faulty wrote:
NannyMon wrote:
I have only one word for you Monica.... Hallelujah.... Now please disclose where they hit you for the $50 dog bond?
Hi Basil, sorry about the delay, I just found your post lol, it was Wooli in NSW
-- Edited by NannyMon at 22:09, 2008-09-07
Basil Faulty said
12:40 PM Sep 8, 2008
NannyMon wrote:
Basil Faulty wrote:
NannyMon wrote:
I have only one word for you Monica.... Hallelujah.... Now please disclose where they hit you for the $50 dog bond?
Hi Basil, sorry about the delay, I just found your post lol, it was Wooli in NSW
I once seen a lady over near Mannum who used to place her panties on a small mast on the front of her van when she wanted "company" strange thing was they always went inside when she had freinds over, I would say that was unsociable of them, didnt see her much, the dragon didnt like me talking to her, I dont know why, we are normally very sociable people, strange that
Dave yeah that is strange, I wonder why women can work things like that out.... Hard for us blokes to suss...I had a similar experience at Cape Hillsborough just north of Mackay... A lady gave massages, just to cover costs you understand with the hot rocks... she used to hang a sign up in the window of her van when she was errrrrrrrr :Free:.... nepo won it read.... took me ages to cotton on...
Apologies to Dave. It was BASIL who mentioned massages. I didn't imagine it, as you said, just got the names wrong.
nancyhector said
08:50 AM Sep 26, 2008
markg wrote:
I dont mean to be a grump but, having heard so much about how solo travellers are always inundated with happy hour drinks offers on the road, Im getting a bit worried about how I can keep myself to myself occasionally without causing offence. I am actually a sociable chap but I also enjoy quite my own company.Do you think this is going to be a problem or am I over-estimating my own future popularity?
You and me both! Quite a scary experience so far, and thats not even leaving home. My nearest town is 205 kls Charters Towers, but mostly we go to Townsville (245kls). I am used to my own company, and am now VERY worried that it is NOT possible to decline invitations without encountering what I perceive as rudeness.
I dont mean to be a grump but, having heard so much about how solo travellers are always inundated with happy hour drinks offers on the road, Im getting a bit worried about how I can keep myself to myself occasionally without causing offence. I am actually a sociable chap but I also enjoy quite my own company. Do you think this is going to be a problem or am I over-estimating my own future popularity?
Just be your own man, go with the flow, enjoy life, don't take it to seriously - no one gets out alive anyway.
Like you Mark, I am a loner, what a great idea the flag is, didn't people come over to ask him what it meant lol. I have to tell you both this, you too Dave and Basil and anyone else who is interested. I have only had my van for 3 weeks and the first week I decided to take it for a run up the coast just a couple of hundred ks or so to see how things went. I called into a caravan park for the night (too scared to stay out on the open road somewhere). I have a little dog and I had looked up the park and it said it was dog friendly so I wasn't all that worried, when I went in to ask about a powered site, they said, $25 for the site, $20 for the amenties key, refundable on return of key, duh, and wait for it $50 bond on my dog. Never heard of that as I have travelled in my car with him. So I said what do you mean and they said if your dog barks or annoys neighbours we keep the $50 ... right. Well all night I was uneasy as Max barks when anyone comes close to my house, car or now the van. This is great as I am deaf and it lets me know that someone is around. Anyway, as I said all night I was uneasy thinking of that $50, Max was uneasy as he was in a strange place, not yet used to the van as I had only just got it. We got thru the night and in the morning I was checking the oil and water and Max started to bark, I looked up and here was this elderly man just watching me. I said hello and we started talking, he was a permenant resident. I said I had to get going as I was worried Max, he still kept talking, I though oh well he is lonely, eventually he left and I shot over to have my shower and I had just come back and was about to shut the sliding door and get moving and Max started barking again. This time it was a little old lady and she came over and we started talking, again, I haven't learnt how to say no yet. She poked her head it the van and was looking at this and that and she then plonked herself on my lounge and then it started, a born again Christian, now don't get me wrong, I have nothing against religion but I couldn't shut her up (I didnt know how to without offending her), well she prayed over me, she sung over me and she gave me psalms to read and this went on for over 2 hours and I still could not think of how to get her out of the van. Eventually she sung and prayed herself out and I told her I had to get going and I shut the sliding door and almost fell over myself getting into the drivers seat. Now please can you all tell me how I should have handled that situation. I believe in been polite to all people especially older people. I have my own religion and I don't like offending people but this was just too much. Oh and yes I did get back my $50 for Max.
of the van and roared off.
Now please disclose where they hit you for the $50 dog bond?
Oh Jesus I'm going to have to get back in the quiet corner, this is all just too much for me....
Well ladies, looks like we girls will have to be careful where we hang our undies to dry after we do our washing.
-- Edited by NannyMon at 21:44, 2008-09-03
Most people can be declined nicely with a gentle "No Thank You' or a plea for a raincheck, but when your space is invaded its time for the inner Tigeress to come out. Be rude if thats what it takes! And dont let that experience out you off, there heaps of great people out there....quite a lot of them even in Caravan Parks!
Dave, what does ROTFL mean?
-- Edited by NannyMon at 22:09, 2008-09-07
http://www.solitaryislandsresort.com.au/
Apologies to Dave. It was BASIL who mentioned massages. I didn't imagine it, as you said, just got the names wrong.
You and me both! Quite a scary experience so far, and thats not even leaving home. My nearest town is 205 kls Charters Towers, but mostly we go to Townsville (245kls). I am used to my own company, and am now VERY worried that it is NOT possible to decline invitations without encountering what I perceive as rudeness.