Dawn,  PLEASE SLOW DOWN!!    I know it's easier said than done but if you keep stressing so much you won't be around to enjoy your retirement.  Take it from one who knows.

Once you get everything in perspective and organised AND get that caravan and tug you will wonder how you did it all.

Believe me once you hit the road you will wonder why you didn't do this years ago.

Best of luck,  thinking of you

Ma

We sort of figured there was a little more to the problem than that. It is a headache to make sure all goes as it is supposed to so it does tend to get on top of us occassionaly. Mate........I really hope you get things sorted out and between the lines of crap here, there is also heartfelt sympathy for all parties involved. Bloody hell....................hang on...............I'll be right back.......just gotta go and kick the dog out of the spa. Damn thing.............it'll be drinking my beer next!! :) Good luck to the three of you Dawn and don't think you are raving......that's why we are here!! Rave on fair lady...........to your heart's content!!

These guys are right - SLOW DOWN! You can't take responsibility for everything when there's 2 of you to do it. You can't take responsibility for the boss deciding to sell his business. You've made your decision to leave and retire. The rest is his decision. Also you can't control everything. Manage what you can manage, and then delegate. Tell you old man what is getting on top of you (no, not him) and ask him for support and help, including the issue of domesticating the dog to the happiness of both of you. It's a team effort. You're lucky you have the team. I'm a team of one, and sometimes I even argue with myself. The biggest worry is when I lose the argument.

At least you get the answers that you want when you ask a question Granny or at least you should I would think.

-- Edited by Ma on Sunday 6th of December 2009 04:51:19 PM

Yes, but is it the right one? Sometimes I ask 'em, but I don't aswer 'em.

What started out to be fair and reasonable question seems to have taken on epic considerations.Husband loves wife,husband also loves Dog.The dog is an animal that will give you love and friendship.The wife has a dream to travel with her spouse and enjoy life before the years creep up on them.The wife does not dislike the dog,what she does not like or want is the competion between her and the Dog.The husband has got to have a good hard look at his priorities namely Dog or Wife on their planned trip.Whatever the outcome I hope that the info given out by your fellow Grey Nomads has been beneficial to you.Best wishes Dawn.Cheers.Ibbo.

Look Stop no more advice I think it is time for DR. PHILL

well done you lot, backup is what we are here for, if we havent got each other we have nothing Dawn, one step at a time Kiddo, seize the moment and revel in it, the little things will drift into nothingness in time, you've made it!!!!!!! the big "R", enjoy!!!! Brickies bight your bum!!! we encourage openess on here and if anyone has a problem we encourage discussion of that problem, shared is halved!!! never know you may just need it one day! we are here to help, mentally or physically!! Life is flimsy and difficult enough, without going it alone!

Brickies, I think your comment was taken too seriously. There's always room for the lighter side here.

Granny who takes DR PHILL seriously

who or what is "doctor Phill"

Ch 10 lunch time make believe Dr.......LOL Dave

Thank you all very much for your great advice. I have taken it all onboard and have decided to tell hubby to read all comments for himself and then he can decide. I feel if I am going to be fair about this then I must let him know what all suggested not just pick the ones in my favour of how I feel. A woman can't be more fair than that. Thanks again signing off on the matter before it becomes too boring for the forum. Cheers Dawn

ah "lunch time" I remember that, I'm afraid the idiot box doesnt get used much around home, well except for the wiggles for R.J. everytime I look they are trying to get jeff awake, why doent someone just kick him! lazy sod Dawn, just keep us up to date,

Dawn have you thought about getting single beds so you dont have to share with the dog?

Jeeeeez..................you are getting old Rosey. Where's the fun in that?? They'd wear the damn carpet out between the beds and the poor dog would be sleeping on it's own.

Good idea Mr Duck!! Dog sleeping on his own, Mum and Dad nice and snug in a single bed!

The final solution,yes thats it Rosey,single beds.End of discussion.Cheers.Ibbo.

Good old Dr. Phil - a psychologist in his own right. He's just commercialised himself and now his wife as well. He sells his advice and his books for a lot of money. Some take him very seriously. Sometimes he's good entertainment - you can take what you want and leave the rest. I think it's a good idea to share our responses to your problem with your man. You might want to fill the dog in on the decision as well. Maybe you could retrain the dog. All the best with you problem. It obviously has you worried. Take care.