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Life in itsef


Good Morning to everybody , a very sad day here today last night some friends of mine who i met in port mcquarie when i lived there .

 

Brian and Christine healey ,there daughter Rebecca who is the same age as my eldest daughter kate ,she lots her little girl Marli to Leukemia only 3years old, this has broken my heart and im at a loss, i am angry and so sad, i felt like not even bothering to do my lymphatic massage today and to hell with it all, its making me wonder once again what the hell are we here for.

If there is a god why would he give people the gift of a gorgeous little girl and then take her away at just 3 years old, why would when i have had trauma in my life and meet the man of my dreams and marry him be given a dose of cancer too, honestly i just cant seem to understand any of it and im just so tired of watching people waste there lives when there are people out there struggling to hang on to theres.

 

R.I P. little marli .xxxxxxxxxxx



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OMG , that is soooo heartbreaking. When I think of the people out there who are just a waste of good oxygen. It just doesn't seem right. GOD must have really needed this SPECIAL LITTLE ANGEL. My heart goes out to you all. R.I.P Sweet Angel Marli



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I agree with you Della...If there is a God....Very Sad To see and hear of any young child  dying



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So sad Glassies. But you hang on there. We're not ready to lose you yet. you still have a lot of living to do.

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Yesterday my chauffeur & best mate (husband in other words) was told by doctor he has to go onto insulin injections as pills are not being effective enough & it looks like his pancreas is giving up the ghost. Of course he was devastated but after a chat we decided to be thankful his problem could be treated & we should be thankful of all the nasties we don't have.

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I don't understand it all either glassies. Good luck with your recovery.

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For every day there is a season and a time for every purpose.
I believe these things are sent to help us grow. It's not about what we lose, but about what we have, and how we must celebrate life.
I was just a little bit older than the little girl when my mum died. I miss her more now than I did when I was young. I wasn't allowed to miss her then. It was never talked about in the family - well, not to me, and I wasn't allowed to ask.
We mourn the passing of someone special to us, because the relationship has ended, but we should be thankful for the relationship, no matter how short.
The death of a child always seems to pointless and unfair. No one should have to bury their children. It's sad for the living to go through it, especially after a long illness during which is was painful to watch the child suffer. I hope they made the most of the child's short time on earth and have grown stronger and closer because of it.

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I agree CG.



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Spot on CG.

Cheers,

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Cruising Granny wrote:

For every day there is a season and a time for every purpose.
I believe these things are sent to help us grow. It's not about what we lose, but about what we have, and how we must celebrate life.
I was just a little bit older than the little girl when my mum died. I miss her more now than I did when I was young. I wasn't allowed to miss her then. It was never talked about in the family - well, not to me, and I wasn't allowed to ask.
We mourn the passing of someone special to us, because the relationship has ended, but we should be thankful for the relationship, no matter how short.
The death of a child always seems to pointless and unfair. No one should have to bury their children. It's sad for the living to go through it, especially after a long illness during which is was painful to watch the child suffer. I hope they made the most of the child's short time on earth and have grown stronger and closer because of it.


 Well said  C G  your words are  very true.  As some one Who lost his wife to cancer I know only to well that life is not only unfair , but also very precious.

Try to stay positive Della I know thats easier said than done but your health is the most important thing at the moment.

All the best Landy.

 



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So sad to hear we know what it feels like to lose a child no matter how short a time you have them for. You Hang in there Della we need you . Helena.

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thank you guys its been a huge day today ,one good thing is the little soul didnt suffer much
and she gave up pretty quickly, her mum and dad sat beside her bed at westmead and told her
it was very brave to fight, but if she wanted to go fly with angels she could let go, and so she did at
6.15 last night.

as they have said so themselves they have been blessed to have little marli even if it were only for a short while
its just so hard to come to terms with it, and you start asking yourself questions that can never be answered.

i was so angry and am still very upset at this but this little girl is not the only one fighting a battle we always
wonder about our little grandson ryan who is now 5 and born with a tumour as you all know and still has it but
it is sitting dormant in his left temporal lobe ,we just hope it goes away in the long run.


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Why do you get angry? I understand the sorrow, but I don't understand the anger.

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anger is a part of grief - you go through shock, sadness, anger, depression, etc. I understand this, as I have been through it all and still have my moments after my son's death 7 months ago. It's all a normal part of the grief process, and it takes time to go through

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angry its happened to us because it seams to happen to good people not the dropkicks

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You both hang in there. You still have each other and you can give support to your friends as they will need it.

You stick to your treatment and get to enjoy your life. We all have to go and some go early and some seem to stay for ever.

I often get distressed when you see people pulling on through their illness and keeping dignity, and then you see the drop kicks who seem to be able to do anything and they still carry on.

It is always sad to hear and see of Kids getting these diseases as well as some of the problems they have when they are born.

I have a son who was born with Cerebral Palsy and it was hard for the first few days but we decided straight away he was going to survive and come home and he is now a father and even though he has a few problems he is living a fruitful life. The doctors wanted us to sign him into a home at birth and forget about him.

It is always hard to see our children suffer the trials and tribulations that we expect only the elderly to have and then we never expect WE will join that group.

We all have to pull together and try to support each other.

You keep to your plans and you will get out there and get to travel and meet the people who to now are your forum friends.

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Some time ago I read of a family in a simular situation. They said to help with the grieving they saw the 'loss' as a gain in that they were able to have four years thith thier wondefull child that they would not have if she were not born. I know it does not dimminish the sense of loss but it gave them some comfort.

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you are right there with the why do i get angry ive been angry several times, mainly because they say there is a god
for starters i wonder why do people become blessed with such a gorgeous little girl and then lose her in such a way.

i also get angry on and off about myself ,im not a woe is me person but i tell you what ive been dealt some blows in my
lifetime on this earth and i have been a survivor , many a time i have asked myself why but never get an answer .

And then when all my life starts to come together i meet a wonderful man, we make our business into a very viable
business after working so damn hard ,and then i get given this ,people say you will learn from what you reap well
i dont know how i have reaped this because all ive ever done is be kind , generous and love people even for who they
are ,but now im angry when i see how people treat there lives and others and i think gees here i am trying to hang on
to life, my whole body feels like a different persons body these days and i am not myself that i used to be.

I can get so angry and upset easily these days and even i cannot answer as to why but all i can say it must
be the stress of all of this happening.

people have said to me its ok to be angry its ok to be sad ,normal considering what i am going through.

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Thanks for the explanation. I can relation to your mix of emotions, but everyone has a different reason for the anger.
I've lost a few close family members but the other adults in my life just removed me from the scene, and I wasn't allowed to have any emotions, or if I had them I was on my own, and had no one to express them to.
So sometimes these days I get a bit cranky about not being allowed to express my emotions to anyone, so I keep them to myself.

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so sorry to hear about the young child glassies, thats so sad ,
my best friend 9 years ago now passed away from Leukemia he was only 24
with a young family, but when it happens to kids, just doesnt seem fair..

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These thing dont seem to show any discression as to who they attack.

Our thought go out to the family as well.

Hang in there della, graeme need you & vise versa.

Love to both;

JC & L.



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