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Pivotal Point... The Decision


Ya know, I've had a whinge or 2 in the dog forum, got on my friggin' high horse, if I'm honest. Not proud of it, but I am prone to an opinion or two when provoked.

but I've sat back and asked myself "Sal, what do u want next in life". I want to hit the road, that's what. 

My last short trip away was 'the decider'. It was fabulous, until someone started hanging "****e" on me. I'm 'weird', I need to change this about myself etc, etc. I drove away in tears. That later turned to anger.

With reflection, it's not easy travelling solo. There's no one to turn to when some idiot starts on you, for starters. I worry, mainly, will it be safe. Will peeps whinge about my dogs, who I never leave alone. That is hard for me. Sometimes 5 minutes alone would be a blessing. But, I can't leave them now, and I wouldn't want to. I wouldn't feel safe without them at night. 

and I have concluded

A: The folk that want to sort my life out, should probably worry more about their own, even if they meant well.

B: not everyone will like me or my dogs, or my cigarettes. And as dogs go, they r very well behaved. Other people's words, not mine. 

C: life's for living. 

D: how bloody lucky am I to be in my 40's and hit the road?

it was optimism that saw me backpack a lot of the world in my 20's. Optimism that saw financial gains in my 30's, and optimism that got me a good career in my early 40's.

and it is with optimism and a good attitude that I hope to hit the road in a few months. 

I am what I think. What I think, I attract. So screw the pessimists. 

I can't wait to meet happy folk on the road (so long as my house sells, I'll be optimistic about that too :). )

Rant and philosophy over! 



-- Edited by Triple333 on Wednesday 8th of January 2014 03:31:39 PM

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Good onya Sally. Just go do it. You will be safe on the road. There are plenty of friendly positive people out here, more than the other kind from what I have observed. Looking forward to seeing you hit the road and hopefully meeting up somewhere for a drink or two around a camp fire.
Good luck with the house.

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Matey the only person that you really need to please is yourself, I don't do things to deliberately upset anyone but if they don't like my attitude then that's not my problem, I like me.

 



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The easiest decision you'll ever make, Triple, is to listen to the pessimists and stay put and be just as miserable as they are.

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smile Gidday 333 I was away when that dog thread was heating up the forum    [ probably a good thing to ?? ] or it might have been back to the naughty room for me !!aww wink biggrin

Just like to let you know that You, Your Dogs, and Your Cigarette, are welcome around my campfire any day.  smile

From they way you have written your post, I can see you would be a [ sensitive ] but responsible caring person, that would take care not to let your dogs, or smoke, annoy other people and I am the same ??

Owning and caring for a dog is a badge of honour showing that you are a good person // My grandmother told me when I was very young, that you can judge people by their attitude to animals ?? If they are compassionate to animals, they are normally Very good people ? and If they are not animal friendly or tolerant, then in most cases they are not very nice people

and looking back over the last 50 years or so ?? Thanks Granny !! you were spot on

So you get out there and Enjoy, Triple 333. and don't you EVER drive away in tears again, // Be Who You Are ?? Act Who You Are ?? and Love Who You Are ?? and do not let biggots make Your decisions ?? As long as the Biggot is not the hosting van ?? They are free to leave ??

Hope to see you out there one day , Safe and Happy travels to you, [ and the doggies ] smile

 



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GaryKelly wrote:

The easiest decision you'll ever make, Triple, is to listen to the pessimists and stay put and be just as miserable as they are.


 D'ya know Gary, I reckon ur spot on. I started doubting myself, big time. But I prefer happy, not miserable. Happy is fun!! 

Thanks!!



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Thank you all for the responses. And yep, "she'll be cool once I get on the road" and get into it.

And yeah, I'm super sensitive. 



-- Edited by Triple333 on Wednesday 8th of January 2014 09:54:08 PM

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Well said Sally. Its your life, your dogs, so live the way YOU want to live NOT how others think you should live.

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Hi 333
I have just completed my dual cert 4 in a community services field and something I learnt that applies to all parts of my life is that (as long as I am doing nothing to hurt or harm others) what other people think of me is none of my business....in other words, you can only please one person at a time and that one person is you! (and your dogs)
If I see you camped up at any time I will come and say Hi......
The only thing I would say as a non home owner think carefully before selling your home given the way the world seems to be going these days......

Catch you out there one day

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Hi 333
I have just completed my dual cert 4 in a community services field and something I learnt that applies to all parts of my life is that (as long as I am doing nothing to hurt or harm others) what other people think of me is none of my business....in other words, you can only please one person at a time and that one person is you! (and your dogs)
If I see you camped up at any time I will come and say Hi......
The only thing I would say as a non home owner think carefully before selling your home given the way the world seems to be going these days......

Catch you out there one day

Annie


 Hi Annie,

funnily enough, I'm looking at doing Cert iii in aged care. I may even start studying it on the road. I like the old, old folk, always have, they can be like kids and come out with some monstrous things ;) that crack me up, and they really appreciate being looked after In their own homes.

Also, it is my intention to buy somewhere again, in a warmer climate. If I'm liking the road, I'll rent it, if not, I'll stay put. 

And yeah, I gotta toughen up on the 'what other folk think' palava biggrinbiggrin



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Hi there. I read your post and feel I must put fingers to the keys. I have empathy with your feelings. One thing I had to learn as a young salesman is that some people you meet do not like you. I was too sensitive and I took rejection of my product and me too seriously. So, a career in sales was not my calling. Them people are still out there but it is now like water off a duck's back. I don't dwell on such issues any more and just get on with trying to enjoy each and every day as it comes. What's their problem? Ha! Ha!

I think you should be very proud of yourself. You have been successful within each of your "ten year packets" and have shown much courage to make the decisions necessary to achieve what you have. Sure, it is great to have a partner that backs you but in the end it is me and me alone that does the work and takes the pain. Long hours of study, putting the money to the mortgage and kids, forgoing fun when duty calls and never quitting.

"The more people I meet - the more I like my dog!" If I meet someone who does not like dogs I start to wonder about them. Have they ever had a true friend? All our dogs through my life came from the pound. Dad looked for abused dogs because he knew that once he adopted and cared for them they would love him forever. I still remember as a kid (and big kid) sitting on the back step and talking to our dog. Little did I know just how good that therapy was. Our dog agreed with everything I said, was never critical and if I wasn't quick enough I got a big tongue kiss on the face to end our talk.

I wish you the best of times in whatever you do next. (Thoughts of the Hobbit come to mind. I remember how safe and comfortable he was but the adventure gave him so much more). Midget Farrelly, our 1st World Champion Surfer, said after the win: "If you feel comfortable (on a wave) you are dead.

Thanks for stirring me to write.

David.

     

  



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Two quotes:
What people think of you is not your problem, it is their problem.
What people think of you is none of your business.

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Yeah. I know. Ignore. But heck, when I get bullied, for no apparent reason, I just feel like.... Going troppo!

But she's been a good lesson. It's all good. And better I learnt it now, than later.



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Good to see you back with us Sal. I wondered why you left so abruptly. Just PM if some creep bothers you again and we will soon

sort that out. I enjoyed your company at Greens and very much I hope to see you on the road again soon.

Cheers Steve 



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Hi there. I read your post and feel I must put fingers to the keys. I have empathy with your feelings. One thing I had to learn as a young salesman is that some people you meet do not like you. I was too sensitive and I took rejection of my product and me too seriously. So, a career in sales was not my calling. Them people are still out there but it is now like water off a duck's back. I don't dwell on such issues any more and just get on with trying to enjoy each and every day as it comes. What's their problem? Ha! Ha!

I think you should be very proud of yourself. You have been successful within each of your "ten year packets" and have shown much courage to make the decisions necessary to achieve what you have. Sure, it is great to have a partner that backs you but in the end it is me and me alone that does the work and takes the pain. Long hours of study, putting the money to the mortgage and kids, forgoing fun when duty calls and never quitting.

"The more people I meet - the more I like my dog!" If I meet someone who does not like dogs I start to wonder about them. Have they ever had a true friend? All our dogs through my life came from the pound. Dad looked for abused dogs because he knew that once he adopted and cared for them they would love him forever. I still remember as a kid (and big kid) sitting on the back step and talking to our dog. Little did I know just how good that therapy was. Our dog agreed with everything I said, was never critical and if I wasn't quick enough I got a big tongue kiss on the face to end our talk.

I wish you the best of times in whatever you do next. (Thoughts of the Hobbit come to mind. I remember how safe and comfortable he was but the adventure gave him so much more). Midget Farrelly, our 1st World Champion Surfer, said after the win: "If you feel comfortable (on a wave) you are dead.

Thanks for stirring me to write.

David.

     

  


Thank you David, for your thoughts. And keep positive, "she'll be right". 

last year I spent 3 weeks in a free camp in SA. There were a couple with the yappiest, most annoying dog in the world. Truly.  And it wanted to kill my big dogs. Everyone hated that dog. And I mean, everyone!!! And the owners knew it,bless em!!!

But I ended up really good mates with the couple. And we still keep in touch. Damned barking dog and all. My big dogs are welcome at their home, if I'm ever in SA again. 

ive had other folks twiddly dogs, urinate on MY  Dogs beds, gross. And no, they didn't offer to clean it. I lived n let live. Little dogs crap in my camp. I lived n let live.

But I'm not real cool on idiots, and he is,  giving me an opinion, when, ummm, look at yourself first.

i think, as a solo, I just wanted to say, "it's not cool to pick on solo's" unless it can be justified. That's all really. And unless you are someone I should aspire to, and he will never be that, bog off and let me and the solo's be the pleasant folk we are. 

its all good really.  And honestly, I'm better off in a corner, smelling the roses. Now that I'm not a groupie. 

I have concluded that I am not a 'groupie' and I'm kewl with that. 

There is no longer a Grey Nomad sticker on my van.

but I still have problems with my water pump, so the techies corner, on this forum, is the best, of all the forums, in my opinion.

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Solo Steve wrote:

Good to see you back with us Sal. I wondered why you left so abruptly. Just PM if some creep bothers you again and we will soon

sort that out. I enjoyed your company at Greens and very much I hope to see you on the road again soon.

Cheers Steve 


 G'day Steve! Great to hear from you. I wondered where you went! 

Have you left Greens yet?

Finally, after obstacles, the house went on the market today. First open next weekend. 

all is happy in life. I just seemed to need a lesson in life, re the open road and all is really good now. 

(And if I'm honest, I wanted to say, don't pick on solo's cos that's not nice!  )

i reckon I'll catch u out there. Hope to.

I'll PM you when I hit the road.... Whenever that will be.

enjoy,

happy and safe travels,

Sal

 



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mavicone wrote:

Hi there. I read your post and feel I must put fingers to the keys. I have empathy with your feelings. One thing I had to learn as a young salesman is that some people you meet do not like you. I was too sensitive and I took rejection of my product and me too seriously. So, a career in sales was not my calling. Them people are still out there but it is now like water off a duck's back. I don't dwell on such issues any more and just get on with trying to enjoy each and every day as it comes. What's their problem? Ha! Ha!

I think you should be very proud of yourself. You have been successful within each of your "ten year packets" and have shown much courage to make the decisions necessary to achieve what you have. Sure, it is great to have a partner that backs you but in the end it is me and me alone that does the work and takes the pain. Long hours of study, putting the money to the mortgage and kids, forgoing fun when duty calls and never quitting.

"The more people I meet - the more I like my dog!" If I meet someone who does not like dogs I start to wonder about them. Have they ever had a true friend? All our dogs through my life came from the pound. Dad looked for abused dogs because he knew that once he adopted and cared for them they would love him forever. I still remember as a kid (and big kid) sitting on the back step and talking to our dog. Little did I know just how good that therapy was. Our dog agreed with everything I said, was never critical and if I wasn't quick enough I got a big tongue kiss on the face to end our talk.

I wish you the best of times in whatever you do next. (Thoughts of the Hobbit come to mind. I remember how safe and comfortable he was but the adventure gave him so much more). Midget Farrelly, our 1st World Champion Surfer, said after the win: "If you feel comfortable (on a wave) you are dead.

Thanks for stirring me to write.

David.

     

  


Thank you David, for your thoughts. And keep positive, "she'll be right". 

last year I spent 3 weeks in a free camp in SA. There were a couple with the yappiest, most annoying dog in the world. Truly.  And it wanted to kill my big dogs. Everyone hated that dog. And I mean, everyone!!! And the owners knew it,bless em!!!

But I ended up really good mates with the couple. And we still keep in touch. Damned barking dog and all. My big dogs are welcome at their home, if I'm ever in SA again. 

ive had other folks twiddly dogs, urinate on MY  Dogs beds, gross. And no, they didn't offer to clean it. I lived n let live. Little dogs crap in my camp. I lived n let live.

But I'm not real cool on idiots, and he is,  giving me an opinion, when, ummm, look at yourself first.

i think, as a solo, I just wanted to say, "it's not cool to pick on solo's" unless it can be justified. That's all really. And unless you are someone I should aspire to, and he will never be that, bog off and let me and the solo's be the pleasant folk we are. 

its all good really.  And honestly, I'm better off in a corner, smelling the roses. Now that I'm not a groupie. 

I have concluded that I am not a 'groupie' and I'm kewl with that. 

There is no longer a Grey Nomad sticker on my van.

but I still have problems with my water pump, so the techies corner, on this forum, is the best, of all the forums, in my opinion.

She' apples



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Hello Sally
We can get you another good sized grey nomads sticker
Catch you on the road
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Sounds like a pretty good way to live your life and hope to meet you along the track ,im past whingers and advice offerers they can all go and suck a fruit tingle and leave me alone ROD



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"As good as you are
As bad as I am
I'm as good as you are
As bad as I am.

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You are you, and I am I,
and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.
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I worked out some time ago that some people just won't like me. That's cool, because there are some people I just don't like too. The main thing is I like me, and so do my dogs and my family. Surely that's all anyone really needssmile

 

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I'm afraid my little dog will try to attack your big dog too. Don't take it personally, he's a rescue dog with issues and I promise to restrain himbiggrinbiggrinbiggrin



-- Edited by The dog lady on Sunday 19th of January 2014 04:51:26 PM

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smile Gidday 333 I was away when that dog thread was heating up the forum    [ probably a good thing to ?? ] or it might have been back to the naughty room for me !!aww wink biggrin

Just like to let you know that You, Your Dogs, and Your Cigarette, are welcome around my campfire any day.  smile

From they way you have written your post, I can see you would be a [ sensitive ] but responsible caring person, that would take care not to let your dogs, or smoke, annoy other people and I am the same ??

Owning and caring for a dog is a badge of honour showing that you are a good person // My grandmother told me when I was very young, that you can judge people by their attitude to animals ?? If they are compassionate to animals, they are normally Very good people ? and If they are not animal friendly or tolerant, then in most cases they are not very nice people

and looking back over the last 50 years or so ?? Thanks Granny !! you were spot on

So you get out there and Enjoy, Triple 333. and don't you EVER drive away in tears again, // Be Who You Are ?? Act Who You Are ?? and Love Who You Are ?? and do not let biggots make Your decisions ?? As long as the Biggot is not the hosting van ?? They are free to leave ??

Hope to see you out there one day , Safe and Happy travels to you, [ and the doggies ] smile

 


 Your grandma was a lady after my own heart Dazrensmile



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