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RE: Think I'm going Nuts.


I get lots of hugs at bowling - bowlers are a friendly lot - and I have a friend who cooks for me, as long as I wash the dishes!! - He gives good hugs too - and we have some good "D & M" converstions. He is my voice of reason sometimes - settles me down when I look like flying off the handle. And for my part - I encourage him to be a bit more forthright in his dealings with his ex - she used to put him down a lot - but he has a lot more confidence - he knows that if she starts again - I will take her on!!! He is a good friend to have.

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Good friends are not easy to come by...........

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Because I have been away, I have only just seen this thread.
Wow! so many comments....and even though they are all different views, the tone is the same and they all make sense.

Chris, you are certainly not going nuts because you won't continue to allow yourself to be used. Giving help when it is needed is one thing....but being expected to continue to help someone who won't help himself is quite another!

Sorry that you are feeling a bit flat about it.... but that's only natural....
Kick back with a glass of wine and a good book or movie, think (only very briefly) about whichever poor sucker is currently doing his chores, be thankful that it's no longer you....and pour another wine!

HUGS, HUGS, HUGS!
Pam. xoooooooooox



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 Cheers. Pam.

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Thank you Dr Pam Travel Bug. You hit the nail on the head.
There's nothing to mourn the loss of, it's just the annoyance of it all.
I've done a bit of gardening and other stuff to get it out of my system.
For some reason I always seem to feel responsible, even a smidge guilty, when a potential friendship doesn't evolve into something else, despite the other party's misguided efforts.
I know I'm free to choose and make my own decisions, it's just that I'm so aware of the other party's feelings and sensitivities.
It's his problem, not mine.

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Hi Travelbug,
Your post reminds me of a friend of my sister, whose husband was violent, abusive and all round a nasty piece of work, but she loved him, and was heartbroken when he left for another woman. My sister advised her to think of how the other woman was now her best friend, and had taken him off her hands.

Eventually she sent the "other woman" a thank you card.
Made me laugh, but she said it was therapeutic.
Rosie

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Haha!! I love that Rosie. Thats what you call revenge.

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I can relate to that too. My violent ex has had 2 long-term relationships since I left him, and he's still doing it.
Slow learner. Although age seems to have mellowed him.
I really loved him and probably still do, but the violence meant I had to escape. The good times were great but the grog did something to his brain and that's when the fist set in. That was in '82.
Maybe he left more than a blot on my landscape.


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Gosh Chris - you have had a bad time there - but the old saying is - what doesn't b reak you, makes you stronger - and to meyou are a very strong woman - take care.

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Hi Rosie,
I like the way your Sister (and her friend) think. biggrin
Cheers. Pam.



-- Edited by Travel Bug on Monday 28th of November 2011 10:36:31 PM

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Rip and Rosie wrote:

Hi Travelbug,
Your post reminds me of a friend of my sister, whose husband was violent, abusive and all round a nasty piece of work, but she loved him, and was heartbroken when he left for another woman. My sister advised her to think of how the other woman was now her best friend, and had taken him off her hands.

Eventually she sent the "other woman" a thank you card.
Made me laugh, but she said it was therapeutic.
Rosie

 

Not long after my ex husband and I split (eons ago) his new girlfriend wrote to me and asked why I had left him as she couldn't understand!!!  I actually wrote back one line "you'll find out" and she became the co-respondent (said it was eons ago) - funny that she didn't marry him ... but the next one did.

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Hi CG when I made the comment about the axe before, it was tongue in cheek and I would never advocate violence so hope you picked that up. You strike me as a very strong woman who has her act together enough never to inflict any sort of dominance or power crap onto someone else. It's great that your radar is well and truely primed. It always a let down when someone tries to put one over on you.

Your "landscape" as you put it could be full of cactii (cactusses?) after all of your hard lessons but it sounds like it's full of roses and other stunning plants.

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This getting older and wiser is a good thing. We get a whole lot more selective about who we share our time and life with.
It's funny what we thought was love in our 20's wouldn't even qualify as friendship now.
Things that go "bonk" in the night just don't cut it anymore. Quality rather than quantity, eh girls.

Maybe I'm too strong now.

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Many years ago, when I was married, I came home from an extended sea trip,which I made to pay off the house., to find my wife in bed with another bloke, who I dragged outside and proceeded to beat the living daylights out of. Not only did my ex take his part, She belted me from behind, knocking me out, with a wine bottle. I woke up with a large headache, and she had gone to the hospital with her boyfriend, leaving me on the lawn in the rain.So I took her half of the furniture out of the house , and luckily it pissed down rain that night, and ruined thge lot.She went to family court and got half the house,and custody of my son, so you can see there was a lot of justice in the family courts in those days. Since then, I have been a bit reticent to form long term relationships, as the majority of women I seem to attact seem to be out for money,or to use you.Don,t get me wrong, I love women, but just have a problem putting up with them for long periods.My present lady, Margaret, works out at the mines, and we get one week in three, and I think its a good arrangement.We enjoy each other company, and get time away form each other.And she make big money out at the mines,so I don,t have to support her. A good arrangement.

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Good for you Bill12 - sounds like a really good arrangement. It seems a lot of people have been damaged by someone at some stage or another - very sad to see. I suppose I was just lucky in my marriage. Though I did extricate myself from a bad relationship when I was much, much younger - 6 weeks before we were due to be married - I was lucky to have support from my family at that time.

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That's the ideal arrangement Bill. My job would bring that situation about as well. Go away long enough to miss them, then really enjoy them when they're home.
Although that didn't work with the ex either. He was a fisherman, away for a week or 2, or a truck driver, away most of the week. The trouble was the "office", (pub). When he was "home" he wasn't. He was at the pub with his mates etc, listening to crap gossip and punishing me for whatever he heard, true or not.

And as for my landscape, it's been crossed by a few cactii (pricks). Now it's a lush tropical rain forest. Well, lush anyway.

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Gee we all have them don't we. I tried three times but never again.

Too happy travelling on my own. I have friends I drop into on my travels but would run like hell if someone showed any interest.

Have worked too hard to loose what little money and sanity I have left, so for me and looks like plenty of others SOLO by nature and SOLO by choice and going to keep it that way.

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I've been married twice, but family and friends tell me I should just delete the 2nd one from my hard drive! biggrin

 



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I've only been married once.....
I think I got the best one the first time and couldn't be that lucky twice.

 



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I also have been married twice both should be deleted form my hard drive lol ..But i have learnt a lesson and that is marriege is for lots of people and i have lot or married friend's who are very happy and some who are not lol ..But it not for me ... dont asked me why becasue i dont realy know maybe im just a b***h .. To go throught the pain and hurt agian i just dont want to go there again...

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          A WOMAN'S POEM:          
 
  Before I lay me down to sleep,
  I pray for a man who's not a creep,
  One who's handsome, smart and strong.
  One who loves to listen long,
  One who thinks before he speaks,
  One who'll call, not wait for weeks.
  I pray he's rich and self-employed,
  And when I spend, won't be annoyed.
  Pull out my chair and hold my hand..
  Massage my feet and help me stand.
  Oh send a king to make me queen.
  A man who loves to cook and clean.
  I pray this man will love no other.
  And relish visits with my mother.



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Very funny poem Billeeeeee. Not sure the relevance of Jonathan photo. lol

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found the male version

A MAN'S POEM:
I pray for a deaf-mute gymnist nymphomaniac with
huge boobs who owns a bar on a golf course,
and loves to send me fishing and drinking. This
doesn't rhyme and I don't give a ****

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 Cheers. Pam.

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billeeeeeee wrote:

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 Noooooooo!! The weddings off.



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Tell the truth Marj, you and billeeeee.............? was it ever on? or is there still one more story to come out of Greens Lake?




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Howdyeeeee Earthlings,,,,Wot went on at Greens -----stays at Greens.........stay excited     Billeeeeeeee



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Not tellingnobiggrin



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Rip and Rosie wrote:

found the male version

A MAN'S POEM:
I pray for a deaf-mute gymnist nymphomaniac with
huge boobs who owns a bar on a golf course,
and loves to send me fishing and drinking. This
doesn't rhyme and I don't give a ****


 Rosie - did you make that up - it's brilliant- fair fell off my chair chortlin'.



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