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86GTS · Guru

Do you require help?

Mike Harding · Guru

86GTS wrote:
As a relatively new member to this forum I have noticed a general atmosphere of intolerance of others opinions.

And you've only noticed that on this forum have you?

Santa · Guru

Over the years, I've noticed members of this forum are far less tolerant of the opinions/views of others than on other forums/communities I visit.

I believe it has a lot to do with advancing years and fixed Idea's, it used to bother me, now I tend to sidestep abrasive posters/topics.

Better things to do than argue about trivia. smile

86GTS · Guru

Santa wrote:
Over the years, I've noticed members of this forum are far less tolerant of the opinions/views of others than on other forums/communities I visit.
I believe it has a lot to do with advancing years and fixed Idea's, it used to bother me, now I tend to sidestep abrasive posters/topics.
Better things to do than argue about trivia.

Hormonal changes due to old age, otherwise known as "grumpy old man syndrome".

It can be remedied, the first step is to admit that one has it.

The next step is to see a GP & get replacement therapy.

TheHeaths · Guru

86GTS wrote:
As a relatively new member to this forum I have noticed a general atmosphere of intolerance of others opinions.
This may help to explain the behavior.
An appointment with your GP may help.
From a SMH article:

The only issue with testosterone therapy now is that, as far as I am aware after a discussion with my doctor late last year, the Federal Govt has made it a requirement for testosterone to only be prescribed by a urologist. I put that forward as a long term user of testosterone therapy, and an advocate for its effectiveness with respect to mood and depression control, my requirement.

Hopefully others may find something different if they enquire of their GP.

As for your other point, re intolerance of others opinion, it has unfortunately become somewhat more prevalent, and is often manifested as a reversion to name calling if a person expresses a contrary view. It is rather less frequently manifested by reasoned and reasonable discussion. I suggest it is becoming more prevalent as we appear to be attracting more experts in everything. Certainly the forum has become less attractive to participate in than it was several years ago. As an aside, it is no worse than the other place I visit for caravan matters, but that is hardly a ringing endorsement! PS. Sorry for the exclamation mark.

-- Edited by TheHeaths on Monday 21st of February 2022 07:49:03 PM

Whenarewethere · Guru

Of all the forums I am on this is by far the rudest. Actually on completely different level.

I have been told, one recent example, all I post is garbage.

Other forums can go dozens of pages & resurrected multiple times & continue in a constructive manor.

Here we are lucky to get to 40 posts. Poor show!

Mike Harding · Guru

Whenarewethere wrote:
Of all the forums I am on this is by far the rudest. Actually on completely different level.

Try Reddit and then you'll discover this forum is pussy cat land.

I have been on the internet since forever and 'twas always thus.

The problem is not some chemical imbalance but rather the reality that around 75% of human communication is non verbal and therefore when using only a few typed words much of the nuance is lost and there is no possibility of immediate non verbal feedback as happens in normal person to person conversation.

That's just the way it is on the net. Heat and kitchens people.

Bicyclecamper · Guru

I am also a reddit user Mike, but it is not lost there much if you get abused, it usually results in a temporary ban, then a perma ban, which is why I like it, plus 195 million user's/members, and over 50,000 sub reddits, so a lot more interesting ideas,, many millions of different view points and very helpful info.

-- Edited by Bicyclecamper on Monday 21st of February 2022 09:50:39 PM

Whenarewethere · Guru

I've never never used FB, Twitter or Reddit etc, probably why on the whole one can have constructive discussions.

86GTS · Guru

I'm only on one other forum, a nature photography based one for 13 years.
Everyone on it is polite & members post mostly constructive comments only.
Its membership average age is far younger than this forum.
If you argue you're off it immediately no questions asked.

TheHeaths · Guru

As Mike says, much of the true communication and the nuance of language is lost when face to face is lost. That does contribute towards some of the issues seen on fora. Nothing tempers comment like personal proximity.

I think that anonymity on a forum removes a great deal of inhibition from some, who with the very remote chance of ever meeting the people they converse with in cyber space, where if they did I suspect they would be a lot less forthcoming with comment or attitude, feel little if any need to remain civil if they wish to express themselves.

If there is any push back by others on the forum to that sort of thing, that is when things degenerate, with a common outcome that those who do object get told they should just scroll on by. I dont understand why some have to miss the general concept of the thread, because a few find it hard to be bit less what they consider to be forthright.

Perhaps if everyone counted to 10 before they posted, considered how there post could be construed and what they would do if directed at them, we could see a return to robust discussion without the sarcasm, cynicism and at time nastiness that prompted 86GTS to start this thread.

-- Edited by TheHeaths on Tuesday 22nd of February 2022 08:49:42 AM

Craig1 · Guru

If you want some bad manners have a look at The Koziusko Park debate about horses or get rid of them

Buzz Lightbulb · Guru

Mike Harding wrote:
Whenarewethere wrote:
Of all the forums I am on this is by far the rudest. Actually on completely different level.
Try Reddit and then you'll discover this forum is pussy cat land.
I have been on the internet since forever and 'twas always thus.
The problem is not some chemical imbalance but rather the reality that around 75% of human communication is non verbal and therefore when using only a few typed words much of the nuance is lost and there is no possibility of immediate non verbal feedback as happens in normal person to person conversation.
That's just the way it is on the net. Heat and kitchens people.

That's why emojis were invented.

Buzz Lightbulb · Guru

TheHeaths wrote:
As Mike says, much of the true communication and the nuance of language is lost when face to face is lost. That does contribute towards some of the issues seen on fora. Nothing tempers comment like personal proximity.

I think that anonymity on a forum removes a great deal of inhibition from some, who with the very remote chance of ever meeting the people they converse with in cyber space, where if they did I suspect they would be a lot less forthcoming with comment or attitude, feel little if any need to remain civil if they wish to express themselves.

If there is any push back by others on the forum to that sort of thing, that is when things degenerate, with a common outcome that those who do object get told they should just scroll on by. I dont understand why some have to miss the general concept of the thread, because a few find it hard to be bit less what they consider to be forthright.
Perhaps if everyone counted to 10 before they posted, considered how there post could be construed and what they would do if directed at them, we could see a return to robust discussion without the sarcasm, cynicism and at time nastiness that prompted 86GTS to start this thread.

-- Edited by TheHeaths on Tuesday 22nd of February 2022 08:49:42 AM

'Don't send it if you wouldn't say it in front of your granny' was one of the etiquette rules when emails first started and could easily be applied to these forums.

Wanda · Guru

I think there are a few people on here that have been dumped from other forums, there lies the problem, they have entertained us with their bad manners and lack of respect for anyone who dissagrees with their opinion
Moderators on other forums seem a little more reactive than here, I think ours could do a whole lot better than letting a post get tooo toxic. confuse
cheers
Ian

PS: also noticed some of the worst offenders, without naming anyone, comment here without any thought that they are the ones, big joke!!

-- Edited by Wanda on Tuesday 22nd of February 2022 03:30:41 PM

Whenarewethere · Guru

Buzz Lightbulb wrote:
Mike Harding wrote:
Whenarewethere wrote:
Of all the forums I am on this is by far the rudest. Actually on completely different level.
Try Reddit and then you'll discover this forum is pussy cat land.
I have been on the internet since forever and 'twas always thus.
The problem is not some chemical imbalance but rather the reality that around 75% of human communication is non verbal and therefore when using only a few typed words much of the nuance is lost and there is no possibility of immediate non verbal feedback as happens in normal person to person conversation.
That's just the way it is on the net. Heat and kitchens people.
That's why emojis were invented.

A Delphic language.

peter67 · Guru

Craig1 wrote:
If you want some bad manners have a look at The Koziusko Park debate about horses or get rid of them

You can say that again. ABC newsfeed post this morning about the hate being shown to people in favour of scientific evidence to drastically reduce brumby numbers, estimated at 20,000. They are opposed by people in the same community (who estimate 3,000 ) who value the man from snowy river culture over science to save the park. Some politicians ride on the man from snowy river theme too, think Bob Katter and the beetrooter barnaby Joyce in the way they dress.

Mike Harding · Guru

Buzz Lightbulb wrote:
Mike Harding wrote:
The problem is not some chemical imbalance but rather the reality that around 75% of human communication is non verbal and therefore when using only a few typed words much of the nuance is lost and there is no possibility of immediate non verbal feedback as happens in normal person to person conversation.
That's why emojis were invented.

A task for which they fail miserably.

Rob Driver · Guru

Buzz Lightbulb wrote:
Mike Harding wrote:

That's why emojis were invented.
A task for which they fail miserably.

Well, finally someone has worked out the true cause of all the animosity that exists on this site.

It has the worst library of emojis on the internet. biggrin

86GTS · Guru

Most members of this forum are retired or approaching retirement.
Travelling around this fantastic country enjoying all it has to offer should be an overwhelmingly enjoyable experience. It sure beats working for a living.
On a forum like this I was surprised that there was so much aggressive behavior.
As I posted originally, if you're having trouble controlling mood swings, something is wrong & you need to do something about it.

KJB · Guru

86GTS wrote:
Most members of this forum are retired or approaching retirement.
Travelling around this fantastic country enjoying all it has to offer should be an overwhelmingly enjoyable experience. It sure beats working for a living.
On a forum like this I was surprised that there was so much aggressive behavior.
As I posted originally, if you're having trouble controlling mood swings, something is wrong & you need to do something about it.

I agree. KB

Wanda · Guru

86GTS wrote:
Most members of this forum are retired or approaching retirement.
Travelling around this fantastic country enjoying all it has to offer should be an overwhelmingly enjoyable experience. It sure beats working for a living.
On a forum like this I was surprised that there was so much aggressive behavior.
As I posted originally, if you're having trouble controlling mood swings, something is wrong & you need to do something about it.

86GTS, you are correct to some degree although I don't think its just an age thing.

Some people don't just get cranky, nasty, moody, call it what you want, because of age. Most people like that have been like it all their lives, well thats what I have found in my 66yrs of living. Just not nice people, simples, thats life!!

Older people dont just turn into , bigots, racists, women haters, bullies or just plain nasty people, they are born like it and go through life with big chips on their shoulders. Thats why some of these people are single in their old age, "some" of the partners have just had enough and bugger off!!

The other thing that some of these nasties hate is someone who's opinion is different to theirs, they are intolerant of other peoples, totally.

Sadly that's life I think, but I certainly have met some younger folk with similar personalities who likewise are not very nice and will grow into old bitter and twisted people, just like some on here

Anyway thats just my opinion and I am sure their are others out there that will think I'm a *%#$@$$#@# as well

86GTS, how about a first name ??

cheers

Ian

86GTS · Guru

Wanda wrote:
86GTS wrote:
Most members of this forum are retired or approaching retirement.
Travelling around this fantastic country enjoying all it has to offer should be an overwhelmingly enjoyable experience. It sure beats working for a living.
On a forum like this I was surprised that there was so much aggressive behavior.
As I posted originally, if you're having trouble controlling mood swings, something is wrong & you need to do something about it.

86GTS, how about a first name ??
cheers
Ian

Presley, but you can call me Elvis if you like. smile

I note that the guy that posted above you is called KB. biggrin

Wanda · Guru

86GTS wrote:
Wanda wrote:
86GTS wrote:
Most members of this forum are retired or approaching retirement.
Travelling around this fantastic country enjoying all it has to offer should be an overwhelmingly enjoyable experience. It sure beats working for a living.
On a forum like this I was surprised that there was so much aggressive behavior.
As I posted originally, if you're having trouble controlling mood swings, something is wrong & you need to do something about it.

86GTS, how about a first name ??
cheers
Ian

Presley, but you can call me Elvis if you like.
I note that the guy that posted above you is called KB.

Name or an intial if your comfotable with either. Just find it better than talking to say a "Yogi Bear or Bullwnkle"

cheers and thanks, Elvis

I see things here have gone a tad silent biggrin biggrin

Ian

peter67 · Guru

86 should be driving a huge Cadillac then :) is his wife's name 99?

86GTS · Guru

peter67 wrote:
86 should be driving a huge Cadillac then :) is his wife's name 99?

Nah, I don't like "yank tanks" but I do enjoy driving my sports car when I'm not towing my caravan.

It makes a lovely contrast in life.

The wife's not 99, just a few years younger than that.

Buzz Lightbulb · Guru

Rob Driver wrote:

Buzz Lightbulb wrote:
Mike Harding wrote:

That's why emojis were invented.
A task for which they fail miserably.
Well, finally someone has worked out the true cause of all the animosity that exists on this site.
It has the worst library of emojis on the internet.

I agree that this interface is poorly designed and the emojis are very lacking. However, one doesn't need the interface to show emotions. Here is a list of simple examples, although I think that one only needs to show: wink, joking, happy, sad, angry, confused and maybe a few others:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_emoticons

:--)

Mobi Condo · Guru

Wow, a really interesting thread. Thanks.

Speaking personally, as it is all any of us can do, I am one of nearly 8 billion folks on the earth, each with a few different opinions on what ever and so take the attitude that there must be at least 8 billion opinions about absolutely anything.

So being a Forum, we can offer our opinion, experience, knowledge, training or whatever and then all others should have the same opportunity.

Why make a topic an argument is beyond me.

Being 73, trained and working all my life in Technical realms, I have had to really pull my head in and realise that there are many other folks who can do and far better, faster, neater than me and so live and admire and learn from those aspects. Makes my life far easier.

Cheers, Ian

Buzz Lightbulb · Guru

In my honest opinion it's okay to disagree on issues but not okay to personally attack others who have different opinions.

Wanda · Guru

Buzz Lightbulb wrote:
In my honest opinion it's okay to disagree on issues but not okay to personally attack others who have different opinions.

Exactly, sadly there are too many on this forum who feel its ok to be a smart arse with there comments to people who dissagree with them. In fact quite nasty at times and with very short memories!

They just don't get it, exactly how bullies react.

Cheers

Ian